Cycle of Violence
The cycle of violence refers to a pattern of behavior on the part of the abuser that keeps the victim confused and off-balance. As the abuser swings through the various parts of the cycle, he can transform from a charming lover to a frightening brute to an apologetic, tearful child as he begs for forgiveness.
Between explosions, there can be periods of calm. However, the victim never truly relaxes because she knows that something - anything - may set off the next explosion.
Explosion Phase
The apprently chaotic world inhabited by victims of domestic violence can actually be comprised of predictable phases. When all appears "normal" a violent explosion may be imminent.
Honeymoon Phase
After the explosion, which may be verbal, sexual or physical, the honeymoon phase of apologies and promises of change begins.
The abuser’s remorse may be genuine - he does not want to lose the person he controls. When his world is once more secure, the courting stops and life returns to normal.
Tension-Building Phase
But, his partner can recognize signs of approaching trouble as the tension-building phase begins once more.
When the cycles become shorter and explosions more frequent, the severity of violence usually intensifies - often to lethal levels.